Change Negative Thoughts For Success

Forget Positive Thinking: This Is How To Actually Change Negative Thoughts For Success    There’s no shortage of self-help gurus who swear that repeating positive phrases to yourself can change your life, encouraging that if you simply tell yourself “I am strong and successful”, your fears will simply disappear.   If you’ve tried using positive[…]

Dealing With the Stress of a Financial Crisis

While money is a relatively common cause of stress and marital tension, the serious global economic downturn we’re currently seeing has many people concerned about losing their home or their savings—or both. If you’re finding yourself stressed about money, the following steps can lead you to a greater sense of peace, and a brighter financial[…]

Coping With College Rejection

How to Help Your Teenager Bounce Back From a College Rejection Letter College rejections are never happy affairs. It was bad enough when you endured it, but watching your child’s face crumple with sadness or anger as he opens that dreaded envelope is heartbreaking. Fortunately, this too shall pass and years from now the contents of that[…]

How to Not Get Overwhelmed by the Little Chores of Life

A new book explores how to manage our endless cycle of administrative tasks and enjoy our lives more.   Recently, a friend of mine called with a spontaneous invitation to a holiday tea. It sounded fun, but…I hesitated to say yes. Shouldn’t I be filling out that school form or returning phone calls or calling[…]

How to Identify Your Tolerations

Your tolerations—those stressors we encounter in daily life that sap us of our energy—can be difficult to identify at first because we become so accustomed to…tolerating them, that they can often blend in with our lifestyles. Fortunately, tolerations are often easy to eliminate when you know how. The first step is to become aware of the tolerations[…]

Got a Problem? It’s Probably Not What You Think

Problems are psychological moving targets. The key is to discover their meaning.   ___________________________________________________________________________________________  You walk out to your car and find that your front tire is flat.   You’re upset — right? Maybe. Suppose you were heading to a meeting that you were dreading — now you have the perfect excuse (complete with photos).  Thank you, car! ___________________________________________________________________________________________ You find[…]

Positive Reframing Strategies for Stress Relief

Sometimes when a day seems stressful or overwhelming, relaxation is just a positive reframe away. Positive reframe strategies take the ‘stress’ out of stressors—when we reframe, we look at the same situation in a new way that highlights possibilities rather than the “threats” involved.  Viewing our stressors as challenges that we can face, even opportunities, rather than[…]