You don’t “find your calling,” you fight for it — and other lessons from people who found their passion (sometimes late in life). Whether it was during a career aptitude test or in a heart-to-heart chat after getting laid off, chances are someone has talked to you about how to “find your calling.” It’s one of those phrases people[…]
Focus on Serving Your Audience Public speaking can be nerve wracking. If you dread it, you’re not alone. The good news is that you can take actions to shift your mindset and assuage your anxiety. Think about being a “giver,” not a “taker.” This means focusing on your audience, not yourself. What do your listeners[…]
“Uncertainty is the only certainty there is” ― John Allen Paulos, mathematician What should we do when everything feels so out of control? Living with so much uncertainty is hard. Human beings crave information about the future in the same way we crave food, sex, and other primary rewards. Our brains perceive ambiguity as[…]
Have you noticed how life can suddenly change and turn everything upside down when you least expect it? Pregnancy, job transfer or sudden unemployment, divorce, death of a loved one, illness or the diagnosis of a disability? How Do You React When You Are Faced With Sudden Change? According to Elisabeth Kübler-Ross, people tend to[…]
Forget Positive Thinking: This Is How To Actually Change Negative Thoughts For Success There’s no shortage of self-help gurus who swear that repeating positive phrases to yourself can change your life, encouraging that if you simply tell yourself “I am strong and successful”, your fears will simply disappear. If you’ve tried using positive[…]
While money is a relatively common cause of stress and marital tension, the serious global economic downturn we’re currently seeing has many people concerned about losing their home or their savings—or both. If you’re finding yourself stressed about money, the following steps can lead you to a greater sense of peace, and a brighter financial[…]
How to Help Your Teenager Bounce Back From a College Rejection Letter College rejections are never happy affairs. It was bad enough when you endured it, but watching your child’s face crumple with sadness or anger as he opens that dreaded envelope is heartbreaking. Fortunately, this too shall pass and years from now the contents[…]
A new book explores how to manage our endless cycle of administrative tasks and enjoy our lives more. Recently, a friend of mine called with a spontaneous invitation to a holiday tea. It sounded fun, but…I hesitated to say yes. Shouldn’t I be filling out that school form or returning phone calls or calling[…]
Your tolerations—those stressors we encounter in daily life that sap us of our energy—can be difficult to identify at first because we become so accustomed to…tolerating them, that they can often blend in with our lifestyles. Fortunately, tolerations are often easy to eliminate when you know how. The first step is to become aware of the tolerations[…]
Problems are psychological moving targets. The key is to discover their meaning. ___________________________________________________________________________________________ You walk out to your car and find that your front tire is flat. You’re upset — right? Maybe. Suppose you were heading to a meeting that you were dreading — now you have the perfect excuse (complete with photos). Thank you, car! ___________________________________________________________________________________________ You find[…]