Why Your Friends Are More Important Than You Think

How can you sustain your friendships in a pandemic? The first step is recognizing their importance, argues author Lydia Denworth.   Researchers and philosophers have explored in great detail the emotional dramas of love and family. But they’ve spent much less time pondering the deep satisfaction of a good friend.   A similar thing happens[…]

Fun Facts About Yourself That Everyone Wants To Hear

If you were to make a list of “fun facts about me,” what would you include?   How to Come Up with Interesting Facts About Yourself Think about your childhood and any interesting, unusual, or relevant events or situations. Consider your family and any unique characters or funny stories about them. What about your talents[…]

Dealing With Guilt

First Came Anxiety, Now There’s COVID Guilt The coronavirus has generated a great deal of anxiety. It’s also brought another unwelcome emotion: guilt. For example, perhaps your job is safe, but friends and colleagues have been laid off.   Gaining Positive Outcomes From Negative Emotions Are you feeling guilty about something?  If you’re guilty, confess and[…]

Your Grief Is a Reflection of Your Love

When you lose someone you love, the grief can be overwhelming. Though explanations alone can never be enough to soothe soul-searing grief, gaining a better understanding of it may help you through the initial period of acute grief.   According to Dr. Katherine Shear, the founding director for the Center for Complicated Grief at Columbia University, “Grief[…]

Four Ways Gratitude Helps You with Difficult Feelings

Research suggests that grateful people are more skillful at coping with stress and regulating their emotions.   Feeling grateful can bring us a variety of benefits, including better mental and physical health and improved relationships. We tend to think of gratitude as an emotion we experience when things are going well, one that is closely associated[…]

You May Have Toxic Behaviors You’re Not Aware Of

I often hear people point out someone else’s behavior as “toxic,” but I don’t think I’ve ever heard anyone say, “My behavior is toxic.” In reality, though, most all of us exhibit some toxic behaviors at some point in our lives.   What Makes Behavior “Toxic” Not all behaviors that upset another person are equally harmful.[…]

Tips for Getting People to Talk Across Political Differences

Our experience shows that people with widely different viewpoints on big issues can have discussions, find agreement, and collaborate.   Never in recent memory has our country experienced such deep divides in our politics and discourse. People of good will and spirit are unable to understand each other or bridge their differences across not just political[…]

Watch Your Tone

Shifting your tone doesn’t mean being phony; it’s about being grounded. Feeling a little sour? The Practice:  Watch your tone. Why?  Tone matters. I remember times I felt frazzled or aggravated and then said something with an edge to it that just wasn’t necessary or useful. Sometimes it was the words themselves, such as absolutes like “never”[…]