Your Grief Is a Reflection of Your Love

When you lose someone you love, the grief can be overwhelming. Though explanations alone can never be enough to soothe soul-searing grief, gaining a better understanding of it may help you through the initial period of acute grief.   According to Dr. Katherine Shear, the founding director for the Center for Complicated Grief at Columbia University, “Grief[…]

Four Ways Gratitude Helps You with Difficult Feelings

Research suggests that grateful people are more skillful at coping with stress and regulating their emotions.   Feeling grateful can bring us a variety of benefits, including better mental and physical health and improved relationships. We tend to think of gratitude as an emotion we experience when things are going well, one that is closely associated[…]

You May Have Toxic Behaviors You’re Not Aware Of

I often hear people point out someone else’s behavior as “toxic,” but I don’t think I’ve ever heard anyone say, “My behavior is toxic.” In reality, though, most all of us exhibit some toxic behaviors at some point in our lives.   What Makes Behavior “Toxic” Not all behaviors that upset another person are equally harmful.[…]

Tips for Getting People to Talk Across Political Differences

Our experience shows that people with widely different viewpoints on big issues can have discussions, find agreement, and collaborate.   Never in recent memory has our country experienced such deep divides in our politics and discourse. People of good will and spirit are unable to understand each other or bridge their differences across not just political[…]

Watch Your Tone

Shifting your tone doesn’t mean being phony; it’s about being grounded. Feeling a little sour? The Practice:  Watch your tone. Why?  Tone matters. I remember times I felt frazzled or aggravated and then said something with an edge to it that just wasn’t necessary or useful. Sometimes it was the words themselves, such as absolutes like “never”[…]

How Americans Can Find What They Have in Common

Can we bridge differences without suppressing what makes us different in the first place? Yes, say social scientists and civic organizations.   The 2002 film My Big Fat Greek Wedding resonated with millions of people around the world—it retains the title of the highest-grossing romantic comedy in history. Why? Perhaps because its central conflict is one that countless[…]

Utilizing Emotional Intelligence in the Workplace

5 Ways to Become More Emotionally Intelligent at Work Emotional intelligence, sometimes referred to as EQ, refers to a person’s ability to recognize, understand, manage, and reason with emotions. It is a critical ability when it comes to interpersonal communication—a hot topic not only in psychology but in the business world. The term itself was[…]

How Workplace Cliques Harm the Work Environment

Every company wants its employees to get along. After all, teamwork is an essential part of a company’s success. But sometimes groups of employees form cliques at work. When this happens, it is detrimental to employee morale and can lead to workplace bullying. Cliques cause employees on the outside to feel like they are less important or worthy[…]

How Phones Compromise Our Ability to Connect

A new study shows that when people are on their phones, they smile less, affecting their ability to connect with others.   Mobile phones are ubiquitous. Stand in line at any grocery store or sit in any hospital waiting room, and you see people staring at their phones, presumably catching up on news or work[…]