You May Have Toxic Behaviors You’re Not Aware Of

I often hear people point out someone else’s behavior as “toxic,” but I don’t think I’ve ever heard anyone say, “My behavior is toxic.” In reality, though, most all of us exhibit some toxic behaviors at some point in our lives.   What Makes Behavior “Toxic” Not all behaviors that upset another person are equally harmful.[…]

Toxic Traits of Workplace Gossips

View PDF   Gossip is poison to any environment, but it is especially deadly to the work environment. Gossip creates disruption and is specifically designed for the demise of others. Gossip comes from the individual who has the largest, yet most fragile, ego and who feels the greatest threat to their job security, self-esteem, popularity[…]

Judging Others Hurts You

Whether silently disapproving or openly criticizing, our instinct to judge other people rears its head in countless ways. Like me, you’ve probably found yourself judging a person’s clothing, or parenting, or driving, or perhaps their lack of discipline, political views, home décor, choice of car, grammar—anything that can be criticized.   It’s eye-opening to start[…]

Build Self-Esteem and Prevent Bullying

Building self-esteem is a core component of bullying prevention. With healthy self-esteem, your teens will not only be more confident, but they also will be able to identify their strengths — and their weaknesses — and still feel good about themselves. Healthy self-esteem also helps protect teens from bullying. Bullies are less likely to target[…]

Do’s and Don’t’s of Dealing With Anger

Dealing With Anger in a Healthy Way Is Crucial   We all experience anger. Managed in healthy ways, anger can be a positive thing—a red flag that something’s wrong, a catalyst for change, a good self-motivator. Handled poorly, anger can cause health and relationship problems. For many, especially those who didn’t have positive role models[…]

Tips for Getting People to Talk Across Political Differences

Our experience shows that people with widely different viewpoints on big issues can have discussions, find agreement, and collaborate.   Never in recent memory has our country experienced such deep divides in our politics and discourse. People of good will and spirit are unable to understand each other or bridge their differences across not just political[…]

Effects of Bullying on a Child With Social Anxiety

Bullying in school can be a particular problem for children with social anxiety. The first step to helping a bullied child is to learn about the effects of bullying. Perhaps you have seen a change in your child’s behavior that has you worried and you might be wondering things such as the following:   What are[…]

Watch Your Tone

Shifting your tone doesn’t mean being phony; it’s about being grounded. Feeling a little sour? The Practice:  Watch your tone. Why?  Tone matters. I remember times I felt frazzled or aggravated and then said something with an edge to it that just wasn’t necessary or useful. Sometimes it was the words themselves, such as absolutes like “never”[…]

How Americans Can Find What They Have in Common

Can we bridge differences without suppressing what makes us different in the first place? Yes, say social scientists and civic organizations.   The 2002 film My Big Fat Greek Wedding resonated with millions of people around the world—it retains the title of the highest-grossing romantic comedy in history. Why? Perhaps because its central conflict is one that countless[…]

How Workplace Cliques Harm the Work Environment

Every company wants its employees to get along. After all, teamwork is an essential part of a company’s success. But sometimes groups of employees form cliques at work. When this happens, it is detrimental to employee morale and can lead to workplace bullying. Cliques cause employees on the outside to feel like they are less important or worthy[…]